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Anna Ceesay-Motherdom

Anna Ceesay, the Founder and Editor of Motherdom magazine, on her

personal experience of maternal mental health issues

It’s January 2017. I’m in my car, on my own, and I’m not feeling good. I’m six months

pregnant with my second child and I’ve just dropped my daughter off at preschool.

Some mornings I’m waking up with a sinking feeling that stays there for the whole

day. Sometimes I feel fine, great even, but when I do start to feel anxious or low I

hide it very well from everyone around me. I haven’t told my husband, or my

parents. No one actually, until I dial a number that I’ve been looking at for about a

week, and a lady picks up “Hello, this is the PANDAS helpline.”

I stutter. And start to cry. Saying these words out loud for the first time is harder

than I thought. “I think I need some help”, I tell this perfect stranger who I’ve never

met. But she’s very kind and tells me that she went through postnatal depression

when she had her twins, and they’re 7 now. She’s recovered, and there is hope. I

only speak to her for about five minutes and she tells me to make an appointment

with my GP. I wasn’t expecting her to say that (I don’t know what I was expecting!)

but this gives me some direction, so I do what she says. Then I call my husband.

Repeating “I need help” to my GP is hard too, but not as hard as the first time. I’m

still very emotional and raw, and scared. “I’m worried if I tell you how I’m feeling

then you’ll take my daughter away” I tell her. She reassures me that that’s not going

to happen, that I’ve done the right thing and that she’s going to get me help. I’m

incredibly lucky as within what feels like days I’m having a phone consultation with

my local NHS therapeutic team and then am fast tracked to receive one-to-one CBT

(Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) sessions with a perinatal clinical psychologist. I have

about twelve sessions with my therapist on and off until my baby is six months old.

These sessions are life changing and mind-blowing. They teach me that I’m more

than my thoughts, that my thoughts don’t need to control me, and that I can even

change my patterns of thinking.

I came out of my experience with maternal mental ill-health feeling much better. I’m

not “cured”, but now I have the tools to understand my mind a bit more. I know

what to look out for if I start to feel anxious or low. I am better at “watching” my

thoughts and letting them go, rather than holding on to them for dear life. I also feel

happier as a parent, able to be more present and enjoy my wonderful children, who

are a gift and a blessing. (My daughter is nearly 6 and my son is now 2.)

But even though I feel better, just after I stopped my therapy, I had a niggling feeling

that I was actually really lucky to get the care I did, and what about all those other

women who might not be in my position? I remember how alone and scared I felt,

like no one else had ever been through it. I’m a journalist, and I realised that there

was no media platform dedicated to talking about parents’ mental wellbeing. There

were plenty of parenting sites, as well as general wellbeing and mental health

magazines, but nothing in the mainstream market that combined these two things.

That’s when the idea for Motherdom came to me. I wanted to create a space (both

in print and online) where women and men can talk openly about how they’re

feeling as parents. Not just for those people who would identify with having a

mental health issue – for any parent with kids under 5 who wants to maintain

positive mental wellbeing.

I had an instinct that it wasn’t just me who was struggling, but I knew I needed some

research to back up this hunch. So I commissioned a survey of 1000 mums with kids

under 5, and the results were still pretty shocking. Over half (54%) of mums we

spoke to have felt anxious since having a child, 45% have felt low, and 35%

depressed. Many mums are dealing with problems alone. One in five (20%) haven’t

told anyone about their feelings, a quarter (25%) of whom just don’t feel able to.

Well over half (59%) do not feel supported by their family with 45% saying they have

to deal with everything alone, and one in five (22%) thinking they would appear

weak if they asked for help.

So it’s clear that things shouldn’t go on as they are. I want Motherdom to help those

parents who are finding it tough. As well as seeking professional help, there are

things that we, as parents, can do to look after our mental health. Asking for help is

not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength. Motherdom is a place where we can all

come together, a place where we can support each other in our parenting journeys,

and a place where we can be happier parents.

Motherdom is available in print and online. To find out more and get your copy, visit: or follow @motherdom_mag on Instagram


PANDAS Foundation gives support to people coping with Pre and Postnatal Mental

Illnesses, as well as their families, friends and carers. You can call PANDAS on 0843

28 98 401. The helpline is open every day from 9am-8pm. PANDAS’ dedicated

volunteer team are on hand to offer support, advice and can help to signpost to other

organisations if necessary. For more info please


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